When a loved one is struggling with anxiety or another psychiatric condition, families often find themselves feeling helpless or unsure of what to do next. While every situation is unique, one thing is true across the board: support from family members can make a significant difference in a person’s treatment and recovery. In this Ask the Experts post with Dr. Andrew Rosen, we answer some of the most common questions families ask when trying to support someone facing a mental health challenge.
Q: How do I tell someone I care about that they need help?
Dr. Rosen: It’s never easy to approach someone about their mental health, especially when they’re already overwhelmed. The key is to come from a place of compassion, not criticism. Choose a calm, private time to talk and express what you’ve noticed in a non-judgmental way.
Instead of saying, “You need help,” try, “I’ve noticed you’ve been acting differently lately, and I’m concerned. I want to support you in feeling better—have you considered talking to someone?”
Framing it as care and concern rather than a demand can help reduce defensiveness and open the door to meaningful conversation.
Q: What are signs that someone needs to seek professional help?
Dr. Rosen: Everyone experiences ups and downs. But when mental health concerns start interfering with day-to-day life, it may be time to seek help. Some signs include:
- Changes in sleep, appetite, or mood
- Withdrawing from social activities or family interactions
- Difficulty functioning at work or school
- Panic attacks or constant worry that feels out of control
- Avoidance behaviors
If something about your loved one has changed and it lasts longer than a few weeks, trust your instincts. Early intervention can prevent symptoms from becoming more severe.
Q: What does family support look like during treatment?
Dr. Rosen: Family support is more than just encouraging someone to go to therapy—it’s an ongoing process. It can include:
- Participating in family therapy sessions, if offered
- Learning about the nature of any conditions that may be impacting your loved one and how treatment works
- Practicing patience and avoiding judgment as your loved one works through the process
- Respecting their need for space or alone time when necessary
Every treatment plan is different, so it’s important to follow your loved one’s lead and the recommendations of their treatment team.
Q: How can I help someone while they’re receiving care?
Dr. Rosen: During treatment, consistency and emotional availability matter. You can help by:
- Checking in regularly and asking how they’re feeling
- Offering to attend appointments with them, if appropriate
- Encouraging them to continue treatment, especially during tough moments
One of the best ways to help is simply being present. You don’t need to have all the answers—just showing up can mean everything.
Q: How can family members take care of themselves?
Dr. Rosen: Supporting a loved one with anxiety or other mental health conditions can be emotionally draining. It’s crucial for family members to prioritize their own well-being, too. Consider:
- Seeking support from a therapist, support group, or trusted friend
- Setting healthy boundaries and knowing your limits
- Engaging in self-care activities that replenish your energy and reduce stress
Q: How do anxiety disorders affect couples and families?
Dr. Rosen: Anxiety disorders can place strain on relationships—whether it’s a parent-child dynamic, a sibling relationship, or a romantic partnership. Communication breakdowns, increased tension, and feelings of helplessness are common in these situations.
Education and therapy can be powerful tools to help families navigate these challenges. Learning to separate the person from the symptoms and responding with empathy rather than frustration can go a long way in strengthening relationships and promoting recovery for everyone involved.
Final Thoughts
Encouraging a loved one to seek mental health support can feel daunting, but getting help early on allows the people around you begin feeling better, faster. If you or someone you care about is struggling, know that you’re not alone—and that help is available. At The Center for Treatment of Anxiety and Mood Disorders, we work closely with families to provide tools, education, and support throughout the treatment journey.
Have more questions? Our clinical team is here to help. Contact us today to learn more about our programs and how we can support your family.